Saturday, May 10, 2014

What To Call The Person You're With

We claim that we don't like to label things.  But we all know that's bullshit.  We assign a value to everything and everyone relative to how we feel about them.

While most of us, when in a new "relationship" (or as I like to call it "situation"), claim that we just want to keep things casual and see where it goes,  it is important to be on the same page with that person you are with. Knowing where you are and assigning a value to it helps eliminate misunderstanding and unnecessary resentments.

photo credit: Elvert Barnes via photopin cc

While the list below is not for everyone, using it as some sort of guide will hopefully help you navigate your "situation" better.

  • Guy I’m Talking To - Casual to mild flirtation via text messages, social media and/or actually talking on the phone or in person.
  • Guy I’m Seeing - Minimum of 3 hang-out session. Could involve some kissing or making out (or fooling around). 
  • Guy I’m Dating - Regular hang-out session, and gone public with the fact that you are hanging out. Sex may be involved and a few sleep overs. Certain expectations are outlined or at least mutually understood.
  • Boyfriend - You practically spend your free time with one another. You’ve stopped “talking” to other guys. You’ve made it Facebook official.

Featured music: Who'd Have Know - Lily Allen

Monday, May 5, 2014

80/35 Music Festival Line-Up

So... the 80/35 Music Festival is in two months.  I'm still somewhat hoping that there would be additions to the line-up.  It just seemed lackluster compared to the previous years.


Out of all the acts listed, I'm really not that excited to see anyone.  I like Conor Oberst, but that's just old habit.  Best Coast is OK, I liked them in 2010.

I would still go and check it out.  I think it's important to support the event.  It's not always going to be great, but if you want to see more events like this happen in your city, you've kinda have to support it.  Perhaps next year I'll join their board or committee.

Visit their website here: 80-35

Line-up Verdict: I don't hate it.  / Actual event verdict: Pending

Sunday, May 4, 2014

Hanging Out: Up-Down


One of my favorite places to hang out is the Up-Down an arcade bar located in Des Moines' East Village.  They have more than 40 old-school arcade games, a life-size JENGA and Connect Four, and Nintendo games.  It's basically like going back to your childhood basement, except this time you don't have to sneak in alcohol.

I approve of this place because it's across the street from where I like to start my night of partying- The Blazing Saddles. One sip you'll get a buzz, one drink will get you drunk.

On my way down the stairs to the bar last night, I walked-in on a middle of a conversation between two dudes about the musician St. Lucia.


"You've never heard of St. Lucia?" asked the first dude. 

"No."dude number two replied.

I chimed in as I was descending down the steps, in my NATO regulation jacket and Doc Martens - looking like I just came back from an Occupy Movement rally. 

"He sounds like Steve Woodwind."

"Winwood." One of them corrected me.  

"Same difference," I said as I continued down the stairs to look for my friends Bryan, Firras and Jose. 

I don't think that interaction could have gone any cooler if I had said the right name.  But that's the kind of stuff that regularly goes on at Up-Down.  I like that they play music that seems like out my Spotify playlist (or my missing iPod). 

Sometimes though, there will be people who those "party bus" people.  They're usually bachelorette parties or people from Ankeny.  So expect to see the occasional Ed Hardy types, but they normally don't hang out there for long.  They migrate to the martini bar across the street. 

Visit their website: UpDownDSM

Verdict: Callen Approves.

Speaking of St. Lucia, take a listen to his new song Elevate. Then listen to Steve "Woodwind" Winwood's Higher Love and tell me if hear the influence.